Frustration is anger without passion!
In whichever way you define anger and frustration, they are an unwelcomed yet integral part of everyone’s life and frankly speaking, they are completely normal human emotions. But they can lead to problems in all spheres of our lives including work and our most cherished relationships. Here are some foolproof ways to deal with these negative emotions, especially they soar at your workplace…
Anger isn’t always bad
Life is packed with nuisances from minor irritations to something really big. When we make use of our frustration and anger to inspire ourselves, we end up changing something in our life and these negative sentiments end up being good and helpful. However, most of the times we are so incapable of channelizing our energies that anger and frustration result in bad temper, wrath, stress, resentment, loss of confidence, depression etc.
Why should we bother with overcoming anger?
Negative emotions like anger and frustration push us into Fight Mode. There is a physiological reaction that takes place in our body to prepare us for the situation. Such physical response interrupts the natural flow of energy in our body – affecting our heart, immune system, digestion and hormonal balance.
Schedule recharge breaks
You don’t have a never-ending supply of energy. Think of yourself as a battery that needs to be recharged throughout the day. Try scheduling your breaks when you know the energy slumps usually hit. You might schedule a walk and a healthy fruit snack, and take the time to breathe and regroup for 10 minutes before you go back to work.
Instead of being in a stressful task-switching state of mind, take your next task, let everything else go, and just be in the moment with this one task. Let yourself be immersed in this task by letting go of the feeling that you need to quickly rush through it – that you need to move on to the next task waiting for you.
Shift your focus
It’s so easy to get caught in a spiral of anger and despair when you’re frustrated, and I know that first hand. Shift your focus by engaging in small but demanding activities. Get involved. Do take the necessary steps to get over the frustrating situation, but do not ignore everything else around you.
When you feel deeply sad, crying works beautifully. Allowing yourself the space to cry can work wonders on freeing up the stored up energy inside that is too much to contain within. While crying connect with the pain you feel and cry into it.
Practice relaxation skills
When your temper flares, put relaxation skills to work. Practice deep-breathing exercises, imagine a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase, such as, “Take it easy.” You might also listen to music, write in a journal or do a few yoga poses — whatever it takes to encourage relaxation.
Meditation is training for the mind; to calm the noise in our mental space, to lower our thought count, to draw out inner wisdom, and mostly it helps us to recognize and remain anchored in our divine state. Regardless of what is happening external to us, we have the capacity to remain centered, in a state of acceptance, of flow, of peace, and of love.
Snap a Rubber Band
Wear an elastic/rubber band around your wrist, at all times. Every time you find yourself having a thought that would lead to a downward negative cycle, snap the rubber band. It might sting a little. But this actually trains our mind to avoid triggering those thoughts. Pain is an amazing motivator.
Everything in life is temporary
Every time it rains, it stops raining. Every time you get hurt, you heal. After darkness there is always light – you are reminded of this every morning, but still you often forget, and instead choose to believe that the night will go on forever. It won’t. Nothing lasts.
Look for something small to appreciate
You may not have what you want, and you may be very hurt, but you still have more than enough to appreciate right now. Remember that being positive in a negative situation is not naive; it’s a sign of leadership and strength.
Stop holding grudges
Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself!
Stop acting like everything is fine
It’s okay to fall apart for a little while. You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well. You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.
Watch a funny video
If you’re looking to get as far away from your frustration feelings as possible and move on to happier emotions, YouTube-search “Funny Baby Videos.” You’re welcome.
Some of your most frustrating days in your life may turn out to be your best days in the gym. Running, boxing and walking all allow great ways to vent. Many spiritual people find their way into their deepest connections through opening the door to regular exercise. Exerting energy in this way, with a regular commitment to their health, opens them like nothing else.
Start embracing the lessons life is teaching you
Everything that happens helps you grow. Sometimes painful experiences teach us priceless life lessons we didn’t think we needed to know. If you’re having problems, that’s good. It means you’re making progress. The only people with no problems are the ones doing nothing.