‘No need to be unhappy’


“Your life situation exists in time. Your life is now,” says ECKHART TOLLE

As it happens, I am extremely unhappy with my life at the moment.This is a fact, and I would be deluding myself if I tried to convince myself that all is well when it definitely isn’t.To me, the present moment is very unhappy; it is not liberating at all.What keeps me going is the hope or possibility of some improvement in the future.

You think that your attention is in the present moment when it’s actually taken up completely by time.You cannot be both unhappy and fully present in the Now. What you refer to as your ‘life’ should more accurately be called your ‘life situation’. It is psychological time: past and future. Certain things in the past didn’t go the way you wanted them to go.You are still resisting what happened in the past, and now you are resisting what is. Hope is what keeps you going, but hope keeps you focused on the future, and this continued focus perpetuates your denial of the Now and therefore your unhappiness. It is true that my present life situation is the result of things that happened in the past, but it is still my present situation, and being stuck in it is what makes me unhappy. Forget about your life situation for a while and pay attention to your life. What is the difference? Your life situation exists in time. Your life is now. Your life situation is mind-stuff. Your life is real. Find the ‘narrow gate that leads to life’. It is called the Now. Narrow your life down to this moment.Your life situation may be full of problems — most life situations are — but find out if you have any problem at this moment. Not tomorrow or in ten minutes,but now.

Do you have a problem now? When you are full of problems, there is no room for anything new to enter, no room for a solution.So whenever you can, make some room, create some space, so that you find the life underneath your life situation. Use your senses fully. Be where you are. Look around. Just look, don’t interpret. See the light, shapes, colors, textures. Be aware of the silent presence of each thing. Be aware of the space that allows everything to be. Listen to the sounds; don’t judge them. Listen to the silence underneath the sounds.Touch something — anything — and feel and acknowledge its Being. Observe the rhythm of your breathing; feel the air flowing in and out, feel the life energy inside your body. Allow everything to be, within and without. Allow the ‘isness’ of all things. Move deeply into the Now. You are leaving behind the deadening world of mental abstraction, of time.You are getting out of the insane mind that is draining you of life energy, just as it is slowly poisoning and destroying the Earth.You are awakening out of the dream of time into the present.

All problems are illusions of the mind…. If you found yourself in paradise, it wouldn’t be long before your mind would say ‘yes, but….’ Ultimately,this is not about solving your problems. It’s about realizing that there are no problems. Only situations — to be dealt with now, or to be left alone and accepted as part of the ‘isness’ of the present moment until they change or can be dealt with.Problems are mind-made and need time to survive.They cannot survive in the actuality of the Now. Focus your attention on the Now and tell me what problem you have at this moment. I am not getting any answer because it is impossible to have a problem when your attention is fully in the Now.A situation that needs to be either dealt with or accepted — yes. Why make it into a problem? Why make anything into a problem? Isn’t life challenging enough as it is? What do you need problems for? The mind unconsciously loves problems because they give you an identity of sorts.This is normal, and it is insane.

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