‘A home without a daughter is like a body without soul.’
A mother experiences complete joy and pleasure when she delivers a daughter, and same goes for the father. I want to emphasize that the daughters are nurtured in a particular way and the mother loves and the father protects his daughter. However, the mindset and the belief that you give your daughter are going to take her forward in life and not the amount of luxury and things that you buy. So, while you nurture your children with good values, good food, good education, you should definitely have a fixed plan for nurturing her belief systems. Hence, the ‘I can’ mindset, that a parent can give the child can completely transform their life.
Let me share with you a story:
A mother who is over protected, tells her children not to interact with the outside world and not to take any decisions without her consent. The whole family asks the same. So once the daughter is on her own, she will not be able to solve any problem that she faces in her life. She will not be able to come out of trauma easily, she gets worried for every small decision that she has to take; most of the times she will be hesitant because her confidence will be limited.
But, on the other hand when a mother lets her daughter free in making decisions and brings her up with the belief of ‘I can’ she is able to experience all adventures of life. She learns to live on her own, to face any difficult situations; even after she is pulled down or broken she learns to get up, to fight back. She will build a ‘go get’ attitude and also a mindset of ‘I can’. Here the mother believed in her daughter and filled her up with good moral values which helped to shape her life and reach her goals.
A mother’s upbringing can make her daughter as powerful as an international leader, Mother Theresa or end up being dependent on others.
I have been a “happy go lucky girl”, but once I grew up I went through many different difficult stages of life which changed my perception on life. Challenges are important, ups and downs are part of life, trauma is something you have to get over with and keeping yourself stuck in a situation will not get you anywhere in life. By having a powerful mindset and powerful support system our life can be completely transformed. So it purely depends on our choices that we make in our life.
Steps that one can follow when a daughter is born:
Give her the liberty to do what she wants to do in her life.
Explore her likes and dislikes.
Teach her how to manage money from a very young age.
Teach her the importance of savings
Help her to differentiate between wants and needs.
Help her understand that she is unique and her choices will build her personality.
Empower her with ‘I can’ mindset and that mindset comes only if you give her a living example, she will get inspired by you and automatically she will start believing in herself.Help her in exploring her talents and find her passion.
Never compare her with her brother or other siblings; Comparison will bring down her confidence and she will get lost in the ‘process of being better than them’.
Together we can take small steps to make a big change.
Once a daughter realizes that she is an individual born on earth having her own missions, whether she is a girl or a boy will not make a difference. Daughters are pillars of their family.
Empowerment of the daughter with strong beliefs will bring about a big change in the entire world.
Geminidhar ( Take charge Expert and Author)